As a starter, I want you guys to remember the very first golden rule of online gaming:
“Every interaction with any woman must be done with the sole purpose of putting up a real date on your calendar!”
Got that? Ok, then we’re good to go.
If you pay attention, you will realize that when girls go online they play A LOT MORE than in real life!!!.
I mean, we all know women love attention! Although that’s 100% true, such concept has always amazed me on many levels because, well, apart from the male prima donnas we find here and there most guys think about a single thing when it comes to the opposite sex (hint: even betas know It’s not friendship).
That said, you must excuse me because we’ll get hypothetical here for a second… If you make a woman choose between one zero-attachment sex night with Chris Hemsworth vs a free whole lot of attention from her closest Best Male Friend ᵀᴹ over a year, believe me, it still would be a tough choice for most of them.
I’m positive they would care a big deal about sleeping with Chris! It’s a no-brainer: anyone sane and healthy has fantasies about fucking a hot A-list celeb. At the same time, most chicks would probably not give too much thought about the drooling bastard as a sexual partner. But there’s a strong caveat here: even if they chose to fuck Chris, they would still crave the missed opportunity of free attention. (SIDE NOTE: if you’re a woman reading these lines please be honest with yourself before you start getting angry or begin to bash me, ok?…deep down there you know that what I’ve just said is true).
Now let’s flip the script and switch genders. Ask any man if he wants a one-night-stand fuck fest with Kate Upton or free attention from his closest Sweet-Female-Next-Door ᵀᴹ friend. It’s not hard to figure out what my peers would answer here (if for any reason you don’t like Kate, name any other hot celeb so we can move on, alright?).
This is why betas and women are a match made in heaven! While one side is willingly giving away all his time and “emotions” for free, the other is anxiously soaking up all that crap and doing it as it pleases. However, it all becomes a huge problem when we search for online dates.
Going virtual allows girls to fool around to the point where they seem to enjoy it more than anything else (even when it’s not fun to them anymore)…so much it becomes perfectly clear they are wasting our time on purpose – or should I say they’re wasting our time without any purpose.
As contradictory as it seems, some of them are actually spending their time doing something that it’s not cool or productive – but it is a core necessity to their well-being!!! If you don’t know what I’m talking about, you could check the definition of attention whoring here (for the record, I don’t like the term but it’s already common ground so for now we’ll have to put up with that). As I said, it’s not funny or enjoyable and it’s not accomplishing anything – but they do it anyway.
On most cases, they’ll play with your head without any tangible reason even if they’re genuinely interested in meeting you.
This is when most guys get lost, mistaken and start to scratch their heads in doubt…or become angry, explosive and frustrated. In fact, when a woman reaches that point of pure attention whoring she’ll will have no clue about what she’s really doing or what’s going on when she opens the app on her phone. Like a dope fiend, she just wants her daily fix of free virtual attention!
My guess (and it’s only a guess) is that it is just a kind of an automatic self-preservation/self-pleasure mechanism. That’s right, a mechanism which is often triggered because when they go online they have to (in no particular order):
– deal with hordes of betas kissing their “golden” asses and boring them to death, even if they look at themselves in the mirror and see a sheer copy of the purple dinosaur from Barney & Friends (which is quite impossible to happen outside the virtual world);
– try to fulfill their strong Disney fantasies about finding The Prince Charming ᵀᴹ and;
– try to avoid the good-looking over-masculine Alphas who will sweep them from their feet when they’re getting a string of orgasms at his place (ok, the latter is not entirely true…we do know they love Alphas but are excited/terrified of being used just for sex…anyway, you guys got the point).
Besides that, some of them have really low self-esteem or a self-deprecating image – it doesn’t matter if they’re gorgeous – so craving attention online (but never meeting anyone) is a safe way to minimize the symptoms of this imaginary disease.
That’s why you’ll succeed if you have some game on your arsenal: to counteract all this crap and show them some real masculine value!
By texting her the right way, you’ll avoid her attention seeking and will be able to smoothly get her in front of you for a date. You’ll show the world (and yourself) how strongly you understand the way things work and how you can take the most out of your schedule to optimize things and have a really good time!
Personally I see no harm in doing very little online play. I must confess that I do love trying to guess what’s going on inside the head of the online-newly-found hottie. However, that desire quickly vanishes and is replaced by the objective stated in the first paragraph: picking a real date!
I think we should be honest with ourselves here: I really don’t want to have a relationship with the platonic image my mind will conjure of any particular girl. I want her flesh and bones in front of me and after that I want us both having a good time at my/her place (with lots of sex involved, of course). I guess you guys feel the same…in this case we could say: as simple as that!!!
So that is what you should do next time you hit Tinder, POF, Okcupid, whatever…Play a little? Yep! Banter a little? Why not? Then after 3 or 4 exchanges pitch a date!!!
Pretend there’s a bomb whose clock is ticking and there’s no Jack Bauer around to save everybody’s asses: the only way to disarm it is by dating that woman. Seriously, ask her out! ASK! HER! OUT! NOW!!! (and please be Alpha…no “Hey, do you wanna have dinner?” shit ok? We’re all well above it).
Your time is very precious! Don’t waste it with BS!!!